Domestic violence occurs much more often than people know, or even acknowledge. That’s the reality of things and quite the sad truth. Either the victims stay silent and endure their abuse, or that the little who speak up aren’t given that much of a voice to echo their plight throughout the globe.
Be that as it may, you are protected by the law and by your right to life. Therefore, you have no need to fear in making the decision to finally stop being abused, get help, and get out.
- Abuse Isn’t “Normal”
In fact, it shouldn’t be done and experienced AT ALL. The first step to making your move against your abuser is to remind yourself that you do not deserve this maltreatment. Nobody does. It is against human rights and humanity in general.
Even if your abuser gives you reasons as to why he or she is hurting you because you did something “wrong” in their eyes, remember that nobody, regardless of reason, should ever be abused. NEVER is the word to be uttered here. It should NEVER happen to anybody. It should NEVER happen to you.
- No To Waiting For More Warnings
The moment your partner abuses you, count that as all the warnings and signs you need to call them threats. It’s true that abusive relationships are such that there’s a repetitive pattern. Nevertheless, you don’t have to wait for such a repeated cycle to arise.
There’s no cause to be a martyr here. You are not at fault. Come to your senses and realize you’ve been harmed. Now, be vigilant from here onward.
- Inform Those Around You Immediately
One of the unfortunate moves that victims do is keep mum about their abuse. On the contrary, tell your friends and family, and your close neighbours about this. At the same time, report the incident to your local police station.
- Contact A Domestic Violence Defense Lawyer And Shelter
A domestic violence defense lawyer is an excellent way to ensure your safety, and your children’s. Abuse that occurs in the home often merits very little evidence in what governing bodies consider “hard evidence.”
But don’t let this discourage you. With the right representative, you can win this battle legally. More than this, contacting a local Shelter will grow your network of people who work against abusers. At the same time, this is a good method for joining a support group in these trying times.
- Be Safe And Be Smart
Additionally, read about the laws that protect you against abuse and violence. For instance, the New Jersey Laws on Domestic Violence have a comprehensive outline of how the state safeguards victims and deals with their oppressors.
Hence, be knowledgable of your city or state’s laws all the same.
- Collect And Get Out
If no restraining order has been approved because, sadly, there are still tons of cities whose law enforcement policies are lax when it comes to domestic violence, there’s a way out. The power is in your hands and you need to believe that.
Have your closest friends and family (or police officers, if possible) escort you back to your home to collect your valuables. DO NOT go back alone. Plus, be sure to have your kids with you and not leave them with the abuser.
Then, you can stay with said trustworthy loved ones while you sort this out. Change your phone numbers and emails. Cut all communication with the abuser. Check GPS settings and trackers and reset them.
Finally, no longer be his or her victim and go on living your life to the fullest.